Extroverts and introverts have different approaches to life. Extroverts tend to be outgoing, talkative, and social. On the other hand, introverts tend to be reserved, private, and quiet. If you’re an extrovert dating an introvert, you’ll soon discover that your partner has tendencies that are completely foreign to you. This is because psychologically socialization has a different effect on each of you.
Today’s question comes from Lionel and Violet of New York, NY. They asked:
“Do you have any tips for relationships for couples where the male is a Feeler and the female is a Thinker? We’ve noticed that in many instances that our roles are reversed. Any suggestions?” -Lionel & Violet
Hi Lionel and Violet, there are a few things I can suggest…
Yesterday, I shared tips on how to hold your own in a debate with person with a Thinking-Judging preference. After reading the article, several of you asked me via email and on Facebook for an article detailing how to communicate with a person with a Feeling-Perceiving preference. If yesterday's post was an education on logic and critical thinking skills (which are imperative when communicating with TJs), today's is a crash course on emotional intelligence. So, with that in mind, here are four tips for getting positive results when debating with people with a Feeling-Perceiving preference.
During a disagreement, people with a Thinking-Judging (TJ) preference are typically extremely confident. They usually believe that they are right, and that the other party is not seeing the facts clearly. This attitude of certainty can be extremely intimidating for others, especially people with a strong Feeling preference. However, with the right approach, you can hold your own in a debate with a person with a TJ preference. Here’s how.
People of the Inspirer Personality Style (ENFJ, ENFP, INFJ, INFP) are some of the most loving human beings on earth. They are the only temperament in which all four types share a Feeling preference, and this combined with their preference for Intuition cause them to strive toward fulfilling their vision of a world where people are treated equally, emotionally supported, and living their life’s purpose. While Inspirers are extremely nurturing and caring, they can also become crusading, aggressive, cold, or distant if they feel one of their values are violated. Here are 3 things that can transform an Inspirer from Gandhi to Tupac.
Want to know if you and your date are compatible? Looking to build a rapport with a potential client? Wouldn’t it be amazing if you could “hack “ into the personalities of people you meet? Well, this is actually possible. The secret is having an understanding of the basics of Jungian personality theory, and recognizing clues in a person’s behaviors, physical environment, appearance, and communication.
Yesterday, we looked at five challenges that men with a Feeling preference typically experience. Today we will examine women with a preference for Thinking. As stated yesterday, Thinking (T) vs. Feeling (F) is the dichotomy that rules how we make decisions and is the dimension most divided along gender lines. People who have a Thinking preference make decisions based on what they perceive to be a set of logical rules and principles. When making decisions, they do not consider their own feelings or the feelings of others as much as they do facts and objectivity.
Out of all the different parts of personality, Thinking (T) vs. Feeling (F) is the dimension most divided along gender lines. For those of you not familiar with Myers-Briggs, Thinking vs. Feeling is the dichotomy that rules how we make decisions. People who have a Thinking preference make decisions based on what they perceive to be a set of logical rules and principles. When making decisions, they do not consider their own feelings or the feelings of others as much as they do facts and objectivity. People who prefer Feeling make decisions based on harmony and their own personal values.
Welcome back to our 3 Common Miscommunications series. Last week we discussed communication issues between Sensors and Intuitives and discussed Introverts and Extroverts the week prior. Today we will look at frequent communication issues between people with a Thinking (T) preference and those with a Feeling preference (F).
Last week, we discussed common miscommunications between Extroverts and Introverts. This week, we'll move on to the Sensing (S) and Intuitive (N) aspect of personality. According to most estimates, over 75% of the population has a Sensing (S) preference, and 25% of the population has an Intuitive (N) preference.
Despite the popular myth that introversion is rare, the population is actually about 50/50 when it comes to extroversion and introversion. One half of the population views the other half as loud and intrusive. The other half views their opposites as distant and anti-social. While neither stereotype is the complete truth, there are FUNDAMENTAL differences between extroverts and introverts that are often the source of conflict.