5 Tips for Extroverts Who are Dating Introverts.

5 Tips for Extroverts Who are Dating Introverts.

Extroverts and introverts have different approaches to life.  Extroverts tend to be outgoing, talkative, and social. On the other hand, introverts tend to be reserved, private, and quiet.  If you’re an extrovert dating an introvert, you’ll soon discover that your partner has tendencies that are completely foreign to you.  This is because psychologically socialization has a different effect on each of you.

#Q&AwithJay: Feeler Male and Thinker Female Relationships

#Q&AwithJay: Feeler Male and Thinker Female Relationships

Today’s question comes from Lionel  and Violet  of New York, NY.   They asked:

“Do you have any tips for relationships for couples where the male is a Feeler and the female is a Thinker? We’ve noticed that in many instances that our roles are reversed. Any suggestions?”      -Lionel & Violet

Hi Lionel and Violet,  there are a few things I can suggest…

How to Get Successful Results When Debating with a Person with a Feeling-Perceiving Preference

How to Get Successful Results When Debating with a Person with a Feeling-Perceiving Preference

Yesterday, I shared tips on how to hold your own in a debate with person with a Thinking-Judging preference.   After reading the article, several of you asked me via email and on Facebook for an article detailing how to communicate with a person with a Feeling-Perceiving preference.  If yesterday's post was an education on logic and critical thinking skills (which are imperative when communicating with TJs), today's is a crash course on emotional intelligence. So, with that in mind, here are four tips for getting positive results when debating with people with a Feeling-Perceiving preference.

How to Hold Your Own in a Debate with Someone with a Thinking-Judging Preference

How to Hold Your Own in a Debate with Someone with a Thinking-Judging Preference

During a disagreement, people with a Thinking-Judging (TJ) preference are typically extremely confident. They usually believe that they are right, and that the other party is not seeing the facts clearly.   This attitude of certainty can be extremely intimidating for others, especially people with a strong Feeling preference.  However, with the right approach, you can hold your own in a debate with a person with a TJ preference.   Here’s how.

3 Things That Will Transform an Inspirer (NF Preference) from Gandhi to Tupac

3 Things That Will Transform an Inspirer (NF Preference) from Gandhi to Tupac

People of the Inspirer Personality Style (ENFJ, ENFP, INFJ, INFP) are some of the most loving human beings on earth.  They are the only temperament in which all four types share a Feeling preference, and this combined with their preference for Intuition cause them to strive toward fulfilling their vision of  a world where people are treated equally, emotionally supported, and living their life’s purpose.  While Inspirers are extremely nurturing and caring, they can also  become crusading, aggressive, cold, or distant if they feel one of their values are violated. Here are 3 things that can transform an Inspirer from Gandhi to Tupac.

People Hacking 101: Questions to Ask to Help You Guestimate a Person's Personality Type

People Hacking 101: Questions to Ask to Help You Guestimate a Person's Personality Type

Want to know if you and your date are compatible?  Looking to build a rapport with a potential client?  Wouldn’t it be amazing  if you could “hack “ into the personalities of people you meet? Well, this is actually possible.  The secret is having an understanding of  the basics of Jungian personality theory, and recognizing clues in a person’s behaviors,  physical environment, appearance, and communication. 

#Q&AwithJay: Which Personality Types Are Most Likely to Cheat?

#Q&AwithJay: Which Personality Types Are Most Likely to Cheat?

Today, I’m introducing a #Q&AwithJay segment in response to an email I received from a reader.  She gave me permission to reply to her email via a post.   Gwynn R. from Montreal, Quebec wrote:

5 Challenges of Being a Female with a Thinking Preference

5 Challenges of Being a Female with a Thinking Preference

Yesterday, we looked at five challenges that men with a Feeling preference typically experience.   Today we will examine women with a preference for Thinking.  As stated yesterday, Thinking (T) vs. Feeling (F) is the dichotomy that rules how we make decisions and is the dimension most divided along gender lines.  People who have a Thinking preference make decisions based on what they perceive to be a set of logical rules and principles.  When making decisions, they do not consider their own feelings or the feelings of others as much as they do facts and objectivity. 

5 Five Challenges of Being a Male with a Feeling Preference

5 Five Challenges of Being a Male with a Feeling Preference

Out of all the different parts of personality, Thinking (T) vs. Feeling (F) is the dimension most divided along gender lines.  For those of you not familiar with Myers-Briggs, Thinking vs. Feeling is the dichotomy that rules how we make decisions.  People who have a Thinking preference make decisions based on what they perceive to be a set of logical rules and principles.  When making decisions, they do not consider their own feelings or the feelings of others as much as they do facts and objectivity.  People who prefer Feeling make decisions based on harmony and their own personal values.

3 Common Miscommunications That Judgers and Perceivers Experience Everyday

3 Common Miscommunications That Judgers and Perceivers Experience Everyday

Welcome back to the latest installment of our 3 Common Miscommunications series.   In previous weeks we’ve covered miscommunications among Extroverts and Introverts, Sensors and Intuitives, and Thinkers and Feelers.  Today we continue by examining Judging (J) vs. Perceiving (P).

3 Common Miscommunications that Thinkers and Feeler Experience Everyday

3 Common Miscommunications that Thinkers and Feeler Experience Everyday

Welcome back to our 3 Common Miscommunications series.  Last week we discussed communication issues between Sensors and Intuitives and discussed Introverts and Extroverts the week prior.  Today we will look at frequent communication issues between people with a Thinking (T) preference and those with a Feeling preference (F).  

3 Common Miscommunications That Intuitives and Sensors Experience Everyday

3 Common Miscommunications That Intuitives and Sensors Experience Everyday

Last week, we discussed common miscommunications between Extroverts and Introverts.  This week, we'll move on to the Sensing (S) and Intuitive (N) aspect of personality.   According to most estimates, over 75% of the population has a Sensing (S) preference, and  25% of the population has an Intuitive (N) preference.

3 Common Miscommunications That Extroverts and Introverts Experience Everyday

3 Common Miscommunications That Extroverts and Introverts Experience Everyday

Despite the popular myth that introversion is rare,  the population is actually about 50/50 when it comes to extroversion and introversion.   One half of the population views the other half as loud and intrusive. The other half views their opposites as distant and anti-social. While neither stereotype is the complete truth, there are FUNDAMENTAL differences between extroverts and introverts that are often the source of conflict. 

Dating Your Diametric Opposite: How to Make it Work

Dating Your Diametric Opposite: How to Make it Work

For the past year, I've been dating my diametric opposite.  As an ardent student of personality psychology, I typically pay close attention to what the science says about my compatibility with an individual before I decide to get serious.    However, in this instance, I broke all of those rules.